1. Self-talk: Listen to the internal self-talk within you for it will tell you a lot about yourself— thoughts, beliefs, questions with regards to how you interface with yourself and the life around you. The thoughts can be positive or negative, constructive or destructive. Learning to transmute negative and destructive to positive and constructive self-talk will not only help your self-esteem, but in turn, will help you in developing your resiliency.
2. Self-awareness: The ability to understand your thought patterns, emotional processes, and behavioral actions with regards to your motive. Self-awareness is the basis for emotional control and therefore choice. Having self-awareness results in increased emotional control allowing you to make the best choice when confronted with adversity or a difficult challenge.
3. Emotional Control: The ability to self-regulate your emotion to the appropriate level with regards to a particular stimulus. When you are going through times of great challenge, it may seem that you have no control over your situation. Personal emotional control can make you feel more in control and give you the ability to respond appropriately to the situation at hand rather than in a reactional manner. Emotional control can improve a difficult situation rather than making it worse and ahelps you be resilient to whatever comes your way.